Are You Living In The Past?


You're living in the past if:

1. You think every day about some aspect of how your life used to be. Maybe you call it "nostalgia" or simple yearnings for what your life was like before. Reflecting daily on the past can get in the way of moving forward.

2. You try to sleep as much as possible so you can dream about earlier years. When you sleep at night, your dreams become fantasies about how your life was before. You look forward to those dreams.

3. You spend a lot of time on the computer. Being on the computer keeps you busy and you don't have to think about how your life has changed.

4. You use other methods to "escape" from reality, like reading, cleaning, or even drinking alcohol. Perhaps you're constantly in motion and doing something so you don't have to face life as it is now.

5. You're in denial about your current living situation. It's hard to accept that you no longer have a partner or live in the home you thought you would for the rest of your life. Maybe you don't want to rearrange the furniture or get rid of some things you don't use because they remind you of a person who's no longer in your life.

If you see yourself in these 5 points, you're probably living in the past. Examine the following steps to get started living in the present.

Start Living in the Here and Now

Now that you've identified the issue(s), it's time to re-connect with yourself and move forward to create a fulfilling life.

Here's how to do it:

1. Openly acknowledge to yourself what you've been doing. The first step toward healing is acknowledging the error of your ways. "I've been living in the past and I want to stop doing that."

2. Decide what you must do to shift into the present. Do you need to clean out closets, get rid of old possessions, and maybe even move your residence? Sometimes, moving forward in your life literally means moving.

3. Know your life goals. Make a plan you can follow to actively pursue your goals.

4. Take care of yourself. Face yourself in the mirror. Take excellent physical care of yourself. Re-focus your efforts on the current state of your physical body and take care of yourself.

5. Vow to practice special efforts with your feelings. Work to gain an understanding of your feelings. Allow yourself to grieve who or what you've lost if you need to.

6. Contact professionals if needed. Seek out medical care if you've overlooked doing that these past years. Have an annual check-up. If you require psychological assistance to get things in perspective, contact your local mental health center or ask your general physician for a referral to a counselor.

7. Waste no more time. Be in awe of each day. You can do something positive with every 24 hour period. Start immediately.

Living in the past robs you of the life you truly deserve. Re-state your life goals to yourself and then begin living out your dreams in the here and now.

I liked this article and wanted to share it with you. NO ONE LIVES IN THE PAST not even if they want to. written by Tim Carey, Ph.D., a clinician and researcher, is a professor and Director of the Centre for Remote Health in Alice Springs, Australia.

Laura Reichert is the founder of Triangle Life Coaching – women shifting back into alignment to their genuine self.  They move out of being a bystander in their life by developing healthy boundaries and understanding The Power of No.” She’s a certified ACC expert life coach, trainer, and speaker, based in North Carolina.  Laura genuinely and compassionately inspires and empowers women with clarity, hope, and leadership, to overcome their limiting beliefs and obstacles so women can excel as a corporate wife, or entrepreneur.  To learn more about Laura The Life Coach's philosophy go to